I mentioned last week that I’d gone on a date…and it did not go well.  I mean, he was nice and picked a good restaurant.  But, I knew before we met in real life (since we’d originally met online…of course) that it wasn’t going to be a good match.  And my suspicions were confirmed that night.

So, we soldier on, but I’m going to take this opportunity to talk about dressing for a date.  It’s always a little tricky to figure out what’s appropriate, especially for what is essentially a blind date, and even more especially if you’re going somewhere you’ve never been (i.e., everywhere I go in Georgia).  I can’t really help with a specific date outfit in a generic blog post (but feel free to email me anytime you have questions about dressing for an event, and I’ll be glad to weigh in!).  I can, however, comment on what is most important to any good date impression – confidence.

First dates are inherently awkward and nerve racking.  No matter how many I’ve been on, I still feel some sort of nerves every time.  But, confidence helps – when I feel good about myself, namely my appearance, I’m a little more at ease and can focus on the myriad other things stressing me out.

It’s really easy to pick an outfit that boosts your confidence – build it around your favorite feature!  I know we can list a billion things we each don’t like about ourselves, but I think everyone can find at least one thing they DO like about themselves (and if not, please let me know and we’ll work through that together).

For me, I like my legs.  I mean, they aren’t Carrie Underwood’s, but even as my weight has fluctuated over the years, I’ve always felt good when wearing a skirt. So, you’ll pretty much never see me wearing pants on a date.  Plus, I love looking as feminine as possible when going out for the first time (that’s not a rule – just what I personally really like.  So no condemnation if that’s not your jam.)

Maybe you really like your arms, a la Mrs. First Lady, and sleeveless tops are your go-to.  Maybe you’ve got J-Lo junk in the trunk and your favorite pair of jeans makes that really pop.  Or maybe it’s something even less obvious like your forearms – a stack of bangles highlights a pretty wrist.

Whatever it is, chances are, if you like it, other people will, too.  And there is nothing so attractive – to either sex – than confidence.  So, embrace yourself and highlight what you love!  You’ll be better off for it.

To showcase this outfit, I included two full shots – the one on the right has much better lighting and more accurate colors, but I cut off the shoes when taking it.  So, you get both.  I was pleased with this outfit – feminine and flirty, but still casual enough that I didn’t look like I was trying too hard (because, honestly, I definitely was not).  My only complaint was that I wore this infinity scarf on another first date, and I hate associations like that.  Oh well.  Can’t win ’em all.

1 - purple skirt, infinity scarfWhat do you like about yourself?  Do you dress to accent that when you’re wanting to make a good impression/feel good about yourself, or is that something you can start to work on?