To round out the week of Tim Tebow, here is one last blog post based on his message (since it’s a good point and since I don’t ever want to forget anything he said).
How do you define yourself and find your value?
I’ll be honest, this is something I’ve struggled with for years. I know the Christian answer is, “I’m a child of God,” and value comes from knowing who you are in God’s eyes. And I believe that is where we should find it, but it has always seemed so abstract to me. What does that really mean and look like?
I think the answer of how we define ourselves varies for each person. If you’re single, perhaps you define yourself by how many dates you go on, if you’re in a relationship, or even how many Tinder matches you get (guilty on all counts). If you’re married, maybe its by how strong your relationship with your spouse seems to be on any given day. Maybe you place all your value in your work performance (I had a college professor flat out tell me once I needed to define myself by more than just my grades, as I cried in his office over (an unfairly) low test score), or your friend network, or your fashion sense… (I’ve shared before that I feel completely inadequate to write a fashion blog, so the value I place in myself based on that goes up and down like a roller coaster).
Tim gave an example of his own life where he was, in the same year, voted one of the most popular athletes in America and cut from his team. Obviously, that had the potential to put him on the aforementioned proverbial roller coaster. If he derived his value and meaning as an individual from those outside forces, he would have faced an identity crisis that year, as he was forced to choose which definition of himself to believe – that he was a beloved athlete, or that he just wasn’t good enough.
However, Tim doesn’t define himself by how other people see him. Instead, he is confident in who he is in the Lord, knowing that God has a special purpose for his life, no matter what others may say, think, or do. And that’s true of all of us. Whether we are promoted or fired, His plans for us are good, to give us a future and a hope. No matter if we have 5 facebook friends or 5,000, He promises He will never leave us or forsake us. If our fashion taste is lauded by InStyle magazine, or bemoaned by Stacy London, God still enjoys our creativity. And even if every Saturday night is spent at home alone watching Netflix with nary a text message alert, His opinion of us is still that we are lovely.
How are you defining yourself? This is a journey that I am still on; even as recently as a few weeks ago, one of my friends kindly commented on my (above-average) need for validation, drawing my attention to the fact that I still have a long way to go in understanding God’s love and what that really means for my life. But, I’m working on it. I don’t want to be defined any more by outside forces that change with the wind. Rather, I want to have that peace that comes from knowing you are deeply loved by a God who never changes and knows absolutely everything about you, yet still calls you His own.
Is this something you struggle with? If so, what are some of the steps you can take to define yourself in a healthy way? If not currently, but you’ve dealt with this in the past, what were some of the ways you learned to define yourself according to what God says, rather than what the world says? What is your favorite promise from the Lord about how much He values you and who you are in Him?
Let’s celebrate ourselves today! Have a good weekend everyone!