When I moved to Nashville, I made a promise to myself not to use any online dating platforms for the first several months that I lived here. I wanted to get settled, find a job, focus on other things, and ideally, meet someone “organically”, before I gave online another go. For the most part, I’ve kept that promise…with one notable exception.
To really understand this story, we have to go back a week before Thanksgiving to an occurrence seemingly unrelated…stick with me.
On a random Wednesday night, a couple friends were in town, so we did what you do when friends are in town in Nashville – go to the honky tonks! As we’re dancing, I noticed the band guys (two brothers) were kinda checking me out. I didn’t want to be rude to my dance partner, though, so I just took a picture of their album cover (legitimately, I liked their music), planning to look them up on Instagram. A couple days later, I remembered to do that, followed them, and imagined that they might remember me out of the hundreds of people they saw that night. They did not immediately follow me back, and that was the end of that. I thought.
Fast forward to Thanksgiving, and I look at my phone to see an Instagram notification that one of the brothers had followed me back. Interesting, I thought – maybe he did remember me?
Shortly thereafter, I got another notification, this time from Tinder. Naturally, curiosity got the best of me, so I logged in to check and then started scrolling through matches, when I came across a “Super Like” (Tinder has these now. They’re weird), and low and behold…it was the other brother!
For you to properly understand the irony of this, I think you might need a better understanding of how Tinder works. Tinder is based solely on age and geographic location – so, my parameters are ages 27-40, within 30 miles. In Nashville, that’s an awful lot of men, especially at Thanksgiving when so many people would be around who aren’t regularly. Additionally, people can pay to change their location so that if they’re out of town, they can still use Tinder in their home city. This was the case with the band guy – he was actually about 3 hours away, but using Tinder in Nashville. So, out of the literally thousands, maybe hundreds of thousands of men I could have come across on my first Nashville use of Tinder, I came across one that not only I’d seen before, but whose brother had just followed me on Instagram.
I couldn’t resist liking him back, if for no other reason than to see how this drama between the brothers unfolded… But, in an anticlimactic end to this story, Instagram brother never talked to me after all. Either they resolved it among themselves (I like to assume they arm wrestled over me), or he was just following me for the sake of the band (the much more likely scenario).
Regardless, I did meet up with Tinder brother (he paid, for those wondering), but that was very short lived for reasons that are unimportant. However, I couldn’t help but play the words to an old song over in my head before we went out:
Did you ever have to make up your mind? Say yes to one, and leave the other behind. It’s not often easy, it’s not often kind, did you ever have to make up your mind?
Have you ever seen someone on an online dating site that you knew – either by face only, as in my case, or that you really knew in real life? Which site was it, and how did you respond? I found a good friend on Match once, and it was interesting to read his profile as I would a potential date’s…he did a good job of representing himself well. Let’s here your stories, and have a great weekend!