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Don’t DIY

First of all, I’m kinda obsessed with these cropped orange/tomato red/I-don’t-actually-know-what-to-call-this-color pants of mine. You can’t really wear orange pants every day because people would notice, but it’s quite tempting.

Second, I love the scallop detailing on this blouse. It’s one of my yard sale finds from a few weeks ago, that I’m pretty sure I paid $2 for. Worth it.

However, whether it was because the top was previously worn, or whether it’s just cheap, or whether my washing machine eats buttons, I’m not sure…but, for whatever reason, the buttons on the back of the blouse (there are about 4 from the neck to mid-back) have popped off. Because I’m not very domestic and sewing takes a long time, I fixed them with safety pins and glue. That was fine until I went to my chiropractor and he made fun of me (I didn’t realize you could tell my shoddy DIY job when I was lying down. Standing up it was fine, I swear!). So…I guess that’ll teach me to cut corners.

I also learned that day not to ask out your chiropractor, but that’s a story for another time.

1 - orange cropped pants, scalloped topSorry my hair is in my face in this picture. I had another where I looked a little less like a 1930s pin-up girl, but my lipstick in this picture is so on-point! It is straight-up orange lipstick that I bought because it was on clearance at Target and I’m a sucker. But, I actually really love it!

Have you ever had a DIY job go terribly wrong – or terribly right? What are your biggest victories and failures, fashion or otherwise? I’d love to hear your stories! Have a great weekend, everyone!

Florals and Stripes

I know you’re all DYING for an update on my dating life (she says dripping with sarcasm…). Well, the highlight right now is the homeless guy who threw his lunch at me the other day. I think it was a unique form of flirting, and in that sense, almost flattering… So, you can see I’m in a bit of a low period. 

I have deleted all my dating apps, though. After all my defending of Tinder, I was finally convinced that there are very few (read: none) people on it with honest intentions. The rest of the apps were just too much work. So, if I don’t meet someone the old fashioned way – in real life – I may just die an old maid. Que sera, sera.

In that spirit, here is a floral blouse that might match the pattern on your grandmother’s couch. Just kidding. I love florals, and I don’t think they look old-lady ish at all, especially when combined with stripes (which, my mom reminded me, was how my grandmother wall-papered her house. So, maybe I stand corrected.)

Seriously, though, florals and stripes are my favorite way to mix patterns – and a pretty simple way to pull off that trend successfully. My pants are a soft pink and white stripe that pairs well with the pink in my blouse. Since neither piece is too bold and both in the same color palette, mixing the patterns was easy. I added a green tank and purple shoes, because, you know, I like to wear as many colors at once as possible, and my Easter egg outfit was complete (self-deprecation aside, I loved this look).

1 - floral and stripesHow do you feel about florals? Old lady or on-trend? Would you pair them with stripes, another pattern, or only solids? Let’s talk!

Date Night Uniform

The other night, I went on a date that was actually really good. I don’t know if anything else will come of it than a good date, but it was nice to have a really enjoyable one for a change – especially since earlier that morning, a guy online had asked me to be his baby mama. Not as a euphemism for hooking up. He literally was looking for someone to bear his child… 🙈

Alas, I did not get a picture of my date night outfit because I was running late (duh). So, here’s one that I wore on a date several months ago (as you can tell by my Christmas tree, wool skirt, and tights). First of all, I LOVE these earrings, and I’m pretty sure I built this outfit around them. Second, I really like wearing casual pieces dressed up for dates. It’s a put-together look that doesn’t seem as if you were trying too hard. So yes, I wore a skirt and patent wedges, but I paired it with a t-shirt, so I still looked appropriate for the VERY casual fine dining establishment he chose (y’all, I’m just going to be honest. I’ve become a bit of a restaurant snob, and chains are just hard for me).
1 - date night t-shirtDo you have a go-to date look? In the summer, mine is typically a cute t-shirt with a skirt, or shorts with a dressier blouse – some combo of dressy and casual. Winter is similar, just with tights – ha! Married or single, what’s your usual uniform for nights out? I’d love to hear some new ideas!

You seem tall

A surprisingly common misconception about me on dating sites is that I’m tall. I finally asked someone why they thought that, and he said I was almost the same height as the Christmas tree in one of my pictures. Valid point, except my tree is short, and my heels are high. It usually gets awkward after they learn that. Oh well.

Obviously, this is not a current outfit, but I liked it and haven’t blogged it yet, so here we go. I bought these “slips” online a year or two ago to go under a sheer dress, and they’re basically just a super stretchy, long tank top. I really love them as a base layer with leggings – and in this case, boot socks. There are a lot of bottom half layers happening in this look, and I say the more the merrier.

That’s about all I have to say on this one: all neutrals, but enough going on with details to make it interesting. And a touch of pink in my jewelry – naturally.
1 - black and boot socksHappy Monday, everyone! Let me know if you think I look tall, or have any other comments at all. I love hearing from you!

Dateless but not Desperate

Lest Tuesday’s post makes you think everything in my life is perfect, let’s talk about my dating life. A couple weeks ago, I wrote a post about a Match.com experience I had. I never advertised the post, because I wasn’t sure it was that entertaining. Maybe in the context of this bigger post, it fits better. Feel free to read the (one-sided) conversation, if you’d like.

I really had high hopes for Match, actually. I love Tinder, but I wasn’t finding anyone that wanted a relationship and/or shared my values. On Match, I’ve found both, but it’s the other factors that have been lacking. Like attractiveness or the ability to write a complete sentence. Here are some other actual Match.com findings:

  • An introductory message that read simply, “drinks??” At least he’s efficient.
  • A man who after sporadically talking to me for a month, finally asked for my number and then said he’d “probably” call me that weekend. And got mad when I said I’d “probably” be around.
  • Another man who suggested we go on a date next week and when I responded with my availability, SHUT DOWN. I haven’t heard from him since.
  • The Proverbs 31 guy. His message said I seemed like a Proverbs 31 woman, which was confusing to me because I didn’t talk about dyeing clothes or purchasing land anywhere in my profile.

I honestly haven’t been on a date in months, which is fine because I’ve been busy, but sad because I really like going on dates. If I did go on a date, though, I’d probably wear something like this because my colorful kimono and dressy shorts are my new favorite things.

1 - kimono, shortsInstead, I wore them to a friend’s birthday party which was also fun.

Anyone else have good dating stories? Please let me know I’m not alone in this crazy, ridiculous online dating scene. Right??

Have a good weekend, everyone!

Bachelorette in the City

This summer is a busy one for me, as I’m in two non-local weddings. So that means flights, showers, bachelorette parties, and pretty things galore. (It also means two of my single girl hold-outs are abandoning me (insert sobbing face emoji x3)).

Anyway, the first bachelorette party was this weekend, and I didn’t even have to go anywhere. If you didn’t know, Nashville is, without hyperbole, the bachelorette party capital of the US (Vegas is the guys’ version). So, this weekend I got to play tourist in my own town (coming up on 6 months living here, y’all, so I’m definitely a local now), and it was so fun.

Of course, as every good bride (and bridesmaid) knows, every bachelorette party must have a theme, and ours was Bachelorette in the City. So, we got to go the classy route, wearing black and white with pink accents.

I didn’t have a chance to get a full-length picture of my outfit by myself, but I’m sure you’d rather see me with the bride, anyway. She looked so pretty in her sparkly, white dress, didn’t she?

1- bachelorette partyAt the beginning of the season, I always feel a little “over-exposed” wearing strapless things or shorts, but I do love this romper so much, and since most of my closet is a little more colorful, I had limited black and white options, anyway. Tack on some pink earrings, pink pumps, and some complimentary gold accessories, and I was on-theme and ready to take over Broadway.

Below are some of the details for a closer look. I also really liked my makeup, but I haven’t figured out a way to accurately capture it on camera (suggestions?). In the meantime, I included this picture because you can kinda tell what it looked like, and I thought maybe you’d also like to see my wrinkles…

1 - bachelorette detailsWhat was the theme of your bachelorette party? Or what would you like to do when the time comes? Let’s chat!

Nashville Match

So, I’ve started trying to date in Nashville. I say started trying for two reasons:

  1. I had previously been on a few dates, but I wasn’t really looking to actually date then – they were isolated incidents.
  2. Trying is really the key word here. The process is slow.

I joined Match.com again, in hopes of a better pool. I still think Tinder is the most efficient way to meet people, and by and large, Tinder guys are more attractive than on any other dating app/site. However, while I don’t think finding someone who shares my values and actually wants a relationship is impossible on Tinder, I figured my odds were a little better on a paid site. So, because the guys on EHarmony are weird, and the ones on Christian Mingle insist on referencing the Proverbs 31 woman in every profile, Match.com was the obvious choice.

The unfortunate side of Match is that anyone can message you, regardless of how much they do/do not fit within your desired parameters. This leads to a lot of annoying, but sometimes entertaining, messages. Below is an actual transcript of a man who messaged me Easter morning. Since he lives in a different state than me, I didn’t reply…later, I realized the depth of this wisdom, as the following happened around 5:00 Easter afternoon (his comments are noted with a B; mine with an S.)

B: Wow, u are stunning

B: There is zero chance ur single

B: Ur smile is incredible

B: storms are blowing in onto the lake like crazy. So romantic

B: I got the offer of a life time at work tonight

B: so excited. Huge money.

(Next are a series of messages not recorded because apparently Match only stores so many and I hadn’t screenshotted the middle part. It included his number.)

B: Call me

B: I’m a Christian

B: I’m a good man

B: Please take a chance

B: No ?

B: Damn I don’t even know ur name

B: Ur choice

B: Want me to leave u alone ?

B: Good bye pretty girl

B: That’s a yes

B: U never say anything

B: I can’t call?

B: Girl let me treat u like a princess

B: Say something please

B: So completely smitten

B: I don’t think ur interested in being treated like a princess’s

B: Call me

B: Can u please just call me

B: No?

B: I need to hear from u

And that’s where the messages ended. If you noticed an absence of S: comments, that’s because there were none. B was determined, though, and the one-sided conversation continued for about three hours. I kinda felt bad for him in a general sense, but I can’t engage with that. Also, what if I had legitimately been busy? He was assuming I was on my phone reading these messages in my inbox in real time (I was), but what if I’d been at church or for a run – or on a different date?

So, that’s what dating these days is, folks. Wish me luck…

Really, though, I’m (somewhat) optimistic. The pool may not be awesome, but it’s certainly better than in small town, Georgia, and, as my mother always says much to my annoyance/eye rolls, “it only takes one.” Plus, I’m talking to a guy right now who used the word “egregious” correctly in a sentence, so the future is looking bright.

Have you ever been the recipient of these kinds of non-stop (or otherwise troublesome) messages on Match/dating sites? Do you ignore like I do, or do you respond – and if so, how? (I read an article about a girl who messaged guys on Tinder using only Lorelai Gilmore quotes, and I was a little bit jealous of her ingenuity.) Please let me know I’m not alone!

 

It’s a Small World, Afterall

When I moved to Nashville, I made a promise to myself not to use any online dating platforms for the first several months that I lived here. I wanted to get settled, find a job, focus on other things, and ideally, meet someone “organically”, before I gave online another go.  For the most part, I’ve kept that promise…with one notable exception.

To really understand this story, we have to go back a week before Thanksgiving to an occurrence seemingly unrelated…stick with me.

On a random Wednesday night, a couple friends were in town, so we did what you do when friends are in town in Nashville – go to the honky tonks! As we’re dancing, I noticed the band guys (two brothers) were kinda checking me out. I didn’t want to be rude to my dance partner, though, so I just took a picture of their album cover (legitimately, I liked their music), planning to look them up on Instagram. A couple days later, I remembered to do that, followed them, and imagined that they might remember me out of the hundreds of people they saw that night. They did not immediately follow me back, and that was the end of that. I thought.

Fast forward to Thanksgiving, and I look at my phone to see an Instagram notification that one of the brothers had followed me back.  Interesting, I thought – maybe he did remember me?

Shortly thereafter, I got another notification, this time from Tinder.  Naturally, curiosity got the best of me, so I logged in to check and then started scrolling through matches, when I came across a “Super Like” (Tinder has these now.  They’re weird), and low and behold…it was the other brother!

For you to properly understand the irony of this, I think you might need a better understanding of how Tinder works. Tinder is based solely on age and geographic location – so, my parameters are ages 27-40, within 30 miles. In Nashville, that’s an awful lot of men, especially at Thanksgiving when so many people would be around who aren’t regularly.  Additionally, people can pay to change their location so that if they’re out of town, they can still use Tinder in their home city.  This was the case with the band guy – he was actually about 3 hours away, but using Tinder in Nashville.  So, out of the literally thousands, maybe hundreds of thousands of men I could have come across on my first Nashville use of Tinder, I came across one that not only I’d seen before, but whose brother had just followed me on Instagram.

I couldn’t resist liking him back, if for no other reason than to see how this drama between the brothers unfolded…  But, in an anticlimactic end to this story, Instagram brother never talked to me after all.  Either they resolved it among themselves (I like to assume they arm wrestled over me), or he was just following me for the sake of the band (the much more likely scenario).

Regardless, I did meet up with Tinder brother (he paid, for those wondering), but that was very short lived for reasons that are unimportant.  However, I couldn’t help but play the words to an old song over in my head before we went out:

Did you ever have to make up your mind? Say yes to one, and leave the other behind. It’s not often easy, it’s not often kind, did you ever have to make up your mind?

Have you ever seen someone on an online dating site that you knew – either by face only, as in my case, or that you really knew in real life?  Which site was it, and how did you respond?  I found a good friend on Match once, and it was interesting to read his profile as I would a potential date’s…he did a good job of representing himself well.  Let’s here your stories, and have a great weekend!

Going Dutch?

Y’all, we need to have a serious discussion.  I’ve noticed an alarming trend in my recent dating life, and I don’t know if I’m the crazy one here, if I’ve lately just found more duds than usual, or if culture changed when I wasn’t looking. But, men have stopped paying on dates.

Here are the facts:

Of the last 6 men I’ve spent time with (excluding a friend who is in a relationship),

  • 2 have not paid at all (in one instance, I had to literally go to the car to get my wallet. In the other, we awkwardly haggled over whose card to use based on who had cash.)
  • 1 paid but only for my two drinks – never offered to buy dinner, even though we were together from 5:30-8:00 pm. You know, dinner time.
  • 1 paid but said I could get it next time.
  • 2 paid for everything.

I’ve tried to analyze this situation.  Of course, none of these were technically “dates”, if you define date by a man saying, “I would like to take you on a date”, vs. “hey, wanna hang out”?  For the sake of the discussion, we can use that excuse, but it doesn’t really hold water since two of these “non-dates” paid.

We could blame it on them not having much money, but 5 of these 6 are very gainfully employed.  All of them knew I was not (not that it’s other people’s responsibility to pay for me because I’m broke – that’s not their fault, and I’m no socialist. But remember, this is a dating situation).

We could say this was just a Northern thing, but one who paid is from Illinois, and one who didn’t, born and bred in Georgia. All live in the South (and are evenly divided between Georgia and Tennessee…so that’s not it, either).

So, the only similarity I can see between those who paid and in contrast to those who didn’t is age.  The two who paid are over 35.  All of the rest are under.

I’m enough of a feminist to feel a little bad that men have to pay all the time and to appreciate that (under usual circumstances), I am perfectly capable of buying my own dinner.  But, that’s not the point.  Society has dictated for centuries(??), that when a man and a woman go out, the man pays – or at least the person who did the asking pays (in this case, the man, of course).  Also, up until two months ago, I don’t think I’ve ever once paid on a date.

So, what’s going on?  Has every millennial man conspired to stop paying for us independent women? And why now – I’ve dated men my age (or younger) before, and this is a new phenomenon. Or, are my expectations just antiquated? If this is the new world, I’ll adjust – but I just want to know if I have to.

(Lest I be misconstrued, I’m always grateful when a man pays.  Yes, experience has taught me to expect it, but I don’t take it for granted and think it’s a very kind gesture.)

What do you think?  If you’re a woman, have you ever paid (on a first date)- does that bother you? Men, what do you think – should guys be expected to pay? Please discuss because I need to know how big of a line item to put in my monthly budget for dates.

My perfect date is October 15 – not too hot, not too cold

Before I moved from Georgia, I actually had a couple of last minute dates.  I really don’t know why – they all knew I was moving, and for the two years I’d lived in Georgia, pretty much the entire male population hated me.  But maybe that competitive gene kicked in when they knew they had to act fast, because suddenly I was quite (relatively speaking, of course), popular.

First dates in the fall are hard, I think.  You don’t want to go all out winter with a wool skirt/tights, but you can’t wear the cotton dresses of summer. So, this is what I came up with. A light background floral is still a little un-seasonal, but with black jeans and closed toe pumps, I figured I could get away with it.  Since he wore a t-shirt and didn’t even suggest dinner, despite the fact that we were together from 5:30-8:00 pm, I guess it was fine (more on that tomorrow…)

1 - floral blouse, skinny cropsDo any of you subscribe to ipsy?  It’s one of those send-you-something-fun-every-month services, but for makeup and skin care, and it’s only $10.  Also, it’s amazing…. Seriously, I love it so much.  The fun of opening the package  each month is worth the $10, but I always get at least one or two things (and usually more) that I really like (including a full-sized bronzer from Tarte).  Plus, it comes in a cute little makeup pouch. Since I really don’t need 10,000 makeup pouches, I’ve started using them as clutches, like the one you see pictured.  Cute, right?  You all should totally subscribe.  And this is not a sponsored post, but ipsy, if you’d like to sponsor me, I had to cut back my expenses when my job was eliminated….so, help a girl out!

What do you think of my fall-ish date night look?  Have you ever used something as a purse that really wasn’t?  If you’re an ipsy subscriber, what’s the favorite thing you’ve ever received in your goody bag?  Let’s talk!

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