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Take Me out to the Ballgame

I was out of town last week which always puts me way behind in my blog writing. But, y’all, I was in Utah for work and it was GORGEOUS! I wouldn’t last living there: cold and outdoorsy. But, it was so pretty!

Also, ALL THE TULIPS!!!!

I wanted to cry every time I stepped outside, it was all so beautiful. Seriously.

Anyway, prior to that trip, I went on a date. It was the Saturday before Easter – you know, the Sunday where I needed to leave my house by 7:15 to be at church for 5 hours – so, I probably shouldn’t have gone out. But, how do you resist an invitation to a baseball game? It’s my favorite kind of date!

Except for the clothes…casual clothes are REALLY hard for me. Well, I should say, casual clothes when you want to impress someone are really hard for me. I don’t like wearing flats on dates; I’m short enough as it is. I also prefer to wear rompers or dresses for warm-weather dates. But, obviously, at a baseball game, I can’t look like I’m trying too hard (although, as I was soon to learn, at Nashville baseball games, no one watches the games. I could have worn a romper with wedges and been quite at home with many of the other girls who just walked around the stadium and hung out at the trendy bar past left field.)

So, I settled on this: casual shorts, a t-shirt (but at least a cute one with a ballet back), and floral flats because it’s too early for straight up sandals. Maybe not my best date outfit, but it worked and got me out the door (I was, naturally, running late. I blame it on the casual clothes).

What would you wear to a baseball game – either, normally, or on a date? I feel like my answers to that question would be different depending on the circumstances; maybe yours are, too. Give me some ideas for next time, please!!

The Hot Doctor

By popular demand, here is the story of me asking out my chiropractor that I alluded to a few weeks ago.

First of all, I hope he doesn’t ever read this (not sure how he would?), because I’m not really changing any details.

Second of all, let me assure any legitimate contenders for my affection (??) that I’m not the Taylor Swift of the fashion blogging world. I really don’t talk about dating situations that actually matter – good or bad. But, some of my stories are just so funny/ridiculous/entertaining that to not share them would be a crime.

Third of all, it’s long, but I think you won’t mind.

Those disclaimers made, I’d had a sore back for about 6 months, thanks to an ill-fated trip to the honky tonks on an icy night. I basically just googled a chiropractor near me and showed up. And, he was beautiful.

If you’ve ever been to the chiropractor, you know they get all up in your business, so having one that is good-looking is a little awkward. But, delightful.

My first three visits were great – he grinned so big when I walked in and would sit next to me while I was on this massage table thing and just chat. Then, he told me that I should find some friends with a boat so I could go on the lake with them…and he could come with me! So, y’all, I thought I was golden.

I seldom (never?) ask guys out. I’m just a little old-fashioned in that way. But, I thought the doctor/patient thing might make him think he couldn’t, so on my 4th appointment, I told him I wasn’t coming back for a while because I was feeling better. He seemed sad about it. Then, my appointment ended, and the conversation went like this:

Me: “So, what are the ethics here?”

McDreamy: “Uh…what do you mean?”

Me: “Well, since I’m not going to be here for a while…do I have to officially fire you for us to hang out?”

McD: nervous laughter. “Um, I’m not sure.”

Me: suddenly feeling awkward. “Well, read your chiropractor ethics book and find out.”

We talked about this for another minute or two, I asked if he’d be “disbarred” or whatever, and then we finished with this exchange:

McD: “I think there’d be a fine.”

Me: “Oh, then it’s totally worth it!”

McD: more nervous laughter “Uh, well, I guess I have your number…”

Me: “Haha” (but really, ‘yeah, dummy, it’s on my chart’)

Predictably, he never called. So…that did not work as I’d anticipated. But, I don’t regret asking him because a) I thought I was clever about it, and b) I would have always wondered “what if”, if I hadn’t.

I still think he gave me all the right signs – it honestly didn’t even occur to me that this was a gamble. Oh well. You win some, you lose some. But, this is not the end of the story. Of course.

Unfortunately, I hurt my back again, and since he’d helped so much the first time, I thought I’d be an adult and go back to him. So, I did…

The follow-up visit actually wouldn’t have been awkward, but his receptionist forgot to record the appointment. So, I walked in to an empty office, and him coming from the back in shorts and a t-shirt. For some reason, we still went ahead with the appointment, despite the fact that we were the ONLY TWO PEOPLE IN THE OFFICE. Had my previous attempt at alluring him gone better, this scenario could have been quite romantic. But, alas. It was instead as awkward as befits my life (insert monkey with his hands over his eyes emoji).

So, here I am again at square one. C’est la vie. In that spirit, here is a dress I used to wear on dates all the time. I don’t any more, partly because I haven’t been on a date in a while, partly because I’m tired of it, and partly because I’ve moved on to shorts as my go-to date wear. But, it still has a little wear left in it, and you know I love a good fruit motif.

1 - mint green dress, yellow accessoriesHave a good day, everyone! And be bold! It does make life more exciting, even if it doesn’t work out like you’d planned.

Date Night Uniform

The other night, I went on a date that was actually really good. I don’t know if anything else will come of it than a good date, but it was nice to have a really enjoyable one for a change – especially since earlier that morning, a guy online had asked me to be his baby mama. Not as a euphemism for hooking up. He literally was looking for someone to bear his child… 🙈

Alas, I did not get a picture of my date night outfit because I was running late (duh). So, here’s one that I wore on a date several months ago (as you can tell by my Christmas tree, wool skirt, and tights). First of all, I LOVE these earrings, and I’m pretty sure I built this outfit around them. Second, I really like wearing casual pieces dressed up for dates. It’s a put-together look that doesn’t seem as if you were trying too hard. So yes, I wore a skirt and patent wedges, but I paired it with a t-shirt, so I still looked appropriate for the VERY casual fine dining establishment he chose (y’all, I’m just going to be honest. I’ve become a bit of a restaurant snob, and chains are just hard for me).
1 - date night t-shirtDo you have a go-to date look? In the summer, mine is typically a cute t-shirt with a skirt, or shorts with a dressier blouse – some combo of dressy and casual. Winter is similar, just with tights – ha! Married or single, what’s your usual uniform for nights out? I’d love to hear some new ideas!

Going Dutch?

Y’all, we need to have a serious discussion.  I’ve noticed an alarming trend in my recent dating life, and I don’t know if I’m the crazy one here, if I’ve lately just found more duds than usual, or if culture changed when I wasn’t looking. But, men have stopped paying on dates.

Here are the facts:

Of the last 6 men I’ve spent time with (excluding a friend who is in a relationship),

  • 2 have not paid at all (in one instance, I had to literally go to the car to get my wallet. In the other, we awkwardly haggled over whose card to use based on who had cash.)
  • 1 paid but only for my two drinks – never offered to buy dinner, even though we were together from 5:30-8:00 pm. You know, dinner time.
  • 1 paid but said I could get it next time.
  • 2 paid for everything.

I’ve tried to analyze this situation.  Of course, none of these were technically “dates”, if you define date by a man saying, “I would like to take you on a date”, vs. “hey, wanna hang out”?  For the sake of the discussion, we can use that excuse, but it doesn’t really hold water since two of these “non-dates” paid.

We could blame it on them not having much money, but 5 of these 6 are very gainfully employed.  All of them knew I was not (not that it’s other people’s responsibility to pay for me because I’m broke – that’s not their fault, and I’m no socialist. But remember, this is a dating situation).

We could say this was just a Northern thing, but one who paid is from Illinois, and one who didn’t, born and bred in Georgia. All live in the South (and are evenly divided between Georgia and Tennessee…so that’s not it, either).

So, the only similarity I can see between those who paid and in contrast to those who didn’t is age.  The two who paid are over 35.  All of the rest are under.

I’m enough of a feminist to feel a little bad that men have to pay all the time and to appreciate that (under usual circumstances), I am perfectly capable of buying my own dinner.  But, that’s not the point.  Society has dictated for centuries(??), that when a man and a woman go out, the man pays – or at least the person who did the asking pays (in this case, the man, of course).  Also, up until two months ago, I don’t think I’ve ever once paid on a date.

So, what’s going on?  Has every millennial man conspired to stop paying for us independent women? And why now – I’ve dated men my age (or younger) before, and this is a new phenomenon. Or, are my expectations just antiquated? If this is the new world, I’ll adjust – but I just want to know if I have to.

(Lest I be misconstrued, I’m always grateful when a man pays.  Yes, experience has taught me to expect it, but I don’t take it for granted and think it’s a very kind gesture.)

What do you think?  If you’re a woman, have you ever paid (on a first date)- does that bother you? Men, what do you think – should guys be expected to pay? Please discuss because I need to know how big of a line item to put in my monthly budget for dates.

My perfect date is October 15 – not too hot, not too cold

Before I moved from Georgia, I actually had a couple of last minute dates.  I really don’t know why – they all knew I was moving, and for the two years I’d lived in Georgia, pretty much the entire male population hated me.  But maybe that competitive gene kicked in when they knew they had to act fast, because suddenly I was quite (relatively speaking, of course), popular.

First dates in the fall are hard, I think.  You don’t want to go all out winter with a wool skirt/tights, but you can’t wear the cotton dresses of summer. So, this is what I came up with. A light background floral is still a little un-seasonal, but with black jeans and closed toe pumps, I figured I could get away with it.  Since he wore a t-shirt and didn’t even suggest dinner, despite the fact that we were together from 5:30-8:00 pm, I guess it was fine (more on that tomorrow…)

1 - floral blouse, skinny cropsDo any of you subscribe to ipsy?  It’s one of those send-you-something-fun-every-month services, but for makeup and skin care, and it’s only $10.  Also, it’s amazing…. Seriously, I love it so much.  The fun of opening the package  each month is worth the $10, but I always get at least one or two things (and usually more) that I really like (including a full-sized bronzer from Tarte).  Plus, it comes in a cute little makeup pouch. Since I really don’t need 10,000 makeup pouches, I’ve started using them as clutches, like the one you see pictured.  Cute, right?  You all should totally subscribe.  And this is not a sponsored post, but ipsy, if you’d like to sponsor me, I had to cut back my expenses when my job was eliminated….so, help a girl out!

What do you think of my fall-ish date night look?  Have you ever used something as a purse that really wasn’t?  If you’re an ipsy subscriber, what’s the favorite thing you’ve ever received in your goody bag?  Let’s talk!

Blazers and Rompers

Sometime this week, I’ve got some exciting news to share with you all!  I guess I say that as a teaser, which is pretty annoying now that I think about it.  But, check back and I’ll eventually spill the beans.

In the meantime, here is an outfit I wore recently on a date.  Believe it or not, every once in a while, I do get a date with a non-inmate in Georgia.  However, since his Muslim best friend had been kicked out of the family for getting his Hindu stripper girlfriend pregnant and both of them were now living with him, this guy and I were still not a really good match.

As is often the case in my dating life, there was no second date.  Of course, I was fine with that for a number of reasons, but I can’t help but still feel a little rejection.  I know why I didn’t want to go out with you again, but why didn’t you want to go out with me?

I guess I’ll never know, but I’m pretty sure it wasn’t the outfit, because this is one of my new favorites (that honestly I may never wear again because I like being original with my date attire).  But, it’s cute, right?

A great way to transition some summer clothes into fall is to add a jacket.  It keeps you warm, obviously, but also tones down the summery feel, in this case, of my coral, lace romper.  I don’t have a ton of fall dresses – most of mine are very obviously summer, or wool – so, the romper was a playful alternative.

1 - lace romper, blazerWhat do you think about my date night look?  A win or a definite reason he never asked me out again?  And do you feel a little bad too when someone you didn’t like doesn’t ask you out again, or is that an issue I just personally need to work on?  Let’s talk dating lives, cute outfits, guesses at my surprise news…anything you want to share, I’m all ears!

Dressing for a Date

I mentioned last week that I’d gone on a date…and it did not go well.  I mean, he was nice and picked a good restaurant.  But, I knew before we met in real life (since we’d originally met online…of course) that it wasn’t going to be a good match.  And my suspicions were confirmed that night.

So, we soldier on, but I’m going to take this opportunity to talk about dressing for a date.  It’s always a little tricky to figure out what’s appropriate, especially for what is essentially a blind date, and even more especially if you’re going somewhere you’ve never been (i.e., everywhere I go in Georgia).  I can’t really help with a specific date outfit in a generic blog post (but feel free to email me anytime you have questions about dressing for an event, and I’ll be glad to weigh in!).  I can, however, comment on what is most important to any good date impression – confidence.

First dates are inherently awkward and nerve racking.  No matter how many I’ve been on, I still feel some sort of nerves every time.  But, confidence helps – when I feel good about myself, namely my appearance, I’m a little more at ease and can focus on the myriad other things stressing me out.

It’s really easy to pick an outfit that boosts your confidence – build it around your favorite feature!  I know we can list a billion things we each don’t like about ourselves, but I think everyone can find at least one thing they DO like about themselves (and if not, please let me know and we’ll work through that together).

For me, I like my legs.  I mean, they aren’t Carrie Underwood’s, but even as my weight has fluctuated over the years, I’ve always felt good when wearing a skirt. So, you’ll pretty much never see me wearing pants on a date.  Plus, I love looking as feminine as possible when going out for the first time (that’s not a rule – just what I personally really like.  So no condemnation if that’s not your jam.)

Maybe you really like your arms, a la Mrs. First Lady, and sleeveless tops are your go-to.  Maybe you’ve got J-Lo junk in the trunk and your favorite pair of jeans makes that really pop.  Or maybe it’s something even less obvious like your forearms – a stack of bangles highlights a pretty wrist.

Whatever it is, chances are, if you like it, other people will, too.  And there is nothing so attractive – to either sex – than confidence.  So, embrace yourself and highlight what you love!  You’ll be better off for it.

To showcase this outfit, I included two full shots – the one on the right has much better lighting and more accurate colors, but I cut off the shoes when taking it.  So, you get both.  I was pleased with this outfit – feminine and flirty, but still casual enough that I didn’t look like I was trying too hard (because, honestly, I definitely was not).  My only complaint was that I wore this infinity scarf on another first date, and I hate associations like that.  Oh well.  Can’t win ’em all.

1 - purple skirt, infinity scarfWhat do you like about yourself?  Do you dress to accent that when you’re wanting to make a good impression/feel good about yourself, or is that something you can start to work on?

80 Days of Summer: Knock-off Keds

This weekend I had another date – this time, to a minor league baseball game.  Several thoughts on this: first of all, a baseball game is probably my perfect date.  Second of all, the weather on Saturday was custom-made for an evening at the ball park.  Third of all – what in the world was I supposed to wear?

I know what to wear on a first date.  I know what to wear to a baseball game.  I just wasn’t really sure what to wear on a first date to a baseball game.  How do you balance looking your cutest with coming across as cool and casual and like you didn’t try too hard?

Fortunately, I have a brother who is probably more skilled at fashion than I am – you may remember Silas from Menswear Mondays of yore.  I called him up and he talked me down from the ledge, and actually suggested I wear some Keds; I, of course, took his advice.
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Thank you, Taylor Swift, for bringing back this childhood classic.  A note about my shoes – this is one example of where skimping on price can kinda bite you.  I think paying $40 or more for Keds – which we used to buy at K-Mart – is a little silly.  So, I got this pair at H&M for $12.  And I love the color.  But, the quality is lacking a little, as you can see by the way they dent in at my toes.  They’re the right size – just not sturdy enough to hold their shape.  Oh well.  I doubt my date noticed my dented toes.

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Cuffed jeans are all the rage, so I paired them with my kicks for a casual look that would also be warm after the sun set, and then added a light-weight cardi and scarf that kept everything very feminine (because lavender jeans weren’t feminine enough for me, I guess).

So, how do you think I did?  Trying too hard, not trying hard enough, just right?  What would you wear to a baseball game first date?  Have you jumped on the Keds train again?  Let me hear from you!

Purple jeans, green shoes

Uniqlo cardigan
uniqlo.com

Mavi stretch jeans
amazon.com

Keds shoes
dsw.com

 

Two-fer.

Moving can be fun.  Sure, it’s a lot of work, and no one likes living out of disheveled boxes for a couple weeks (I mean, maybe for you all it’s a couple days, but I’m being honest here).

But the fun part is opening said boxes and finding things you’d forgotten you owned – especially when one of those things is a brand new dress you bought at the end of the season and never had a chance to wear.

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I love getting new dresses for Easter, but this year I just didn’t have time.  So, I was thrilled to find this dress and have something perfectly spring-y and new.

I was even more thrilled to have a date dress to wear the very next night.  Now you guys know I don’t usually wear the same thing two days in a row – where’s the fun in that?  But, the whole box situation is cramping my style.  And he hadn’t seen it anyway.  So, I mixed up my accessories (the picture above is my date iteration; for Easter, I switched the belt and shoes – yellow belt, cream heels – and wore some colored bangles), and it felt pretty much new again.

A couple notes – you can’t really tell, but the top of this dress is sheer, and it’s very pretty and feminine.  I also love having clothing with every color of the rainbow.  Because who wouldn’t?  And, this cool lion bracelet was in my Easter basket (aka a gift bag b/c I’m old now).

Finally, I think Monday nights should be date nights more often.  Looking forward to it makes the whole day a lot more enjoyable.

(Selfie just because I felt pretty.)

Peach floral dress, yellow shoes

AX Paris sleeveless dress
$42 – houseoffraser.co.uk

Jane Norman gold jewelry
$17 – janenorman.co.uk

Kate Spade ring
katespade.com

Banana Republic gold bracelet
bananarepublic.gap.com

Day Dates

So, the Backstreet Boys concert was exactly as you’d expect a Backstreet Boys concert to be…awesome.  There’s really nothing in the world quite like seeing a group of 40 year old men do choreographed dance as if it were completely normal to a crowd of screaming 20 and 30 somethings women.

Also – DJ Pauly D is the worst DJ ever.  Seriously.

Alas, I somehow failed to take pictures of my outfit for the show.  I’m not sure how Backstreet it was, but it was cute, and I was looking forward to showing you.

Maybe I’ll recreate it one day.  In the meantime, here is another cute outfit that I wore on a day date a few weeks ago.  Day dates are difficult – especially in the middle of a work day.  You want to look cute, but not like you’re trying too hard.  And, you have to still be work appropriate, which is seldom the same thing as date appropriate.

This is what I came up with.  A little print mixing, one of my go-to date dresses, and voila – a casual summer lunch date look.  Probably a little too casual for the office, really, but it was a Friday, so I pushed it.

What would you wear to a work-day lunch date?

Dress: Forever 21
Shoes: DSW

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