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Cancel Culture

Last week marked 6 months of my living in DC, y’all – can you believe it?! Even more shocking perhaps than how much time has passed is that, global pandemic notwithstanding, I actually really like it here. Some might wonder why I moved to a place I wasn’t sure I’d like, but since I did, let’s all just celebrate that I am happy with my decision.

One of the primary reasons I love living in this area are the friends I’ve already made. With a few notable exceptions, I never really felt like I found my “people” in Nashville. I had a lot of people who cared about me, and I about them. But, having a group of friends where you’re automatically included in weekend plans is harder to find, and something I haven’t had since I left Virginia Beach almost 7 (!!) years ago. To find it so quickly here is an answer to prayer, one I’m not even sure I fully articulated.

Perhaps living in the political capital of the world, though, has made me want to get more political. Or maybe it’s just that everyone else has suddenly decided to get political, so I feel compelled to keep up with the Joneses.

Either way, I have a few thoughts. I took a break from social media (mostly) for the better part of the past month, and it was so refreshing. Everything is heavy right now – every issue is political, from whether or not you like Hamilton, to whether or not you have extra toilet paper in your house. You can’t scroll through any social media platform without being subjected to one-sided arguments shouted at you – from both sides.

I had a really great Fourth of July this year, full of oohs and ahhs over the gorgeous fireworks surrounding the monuments to our national heroes. Imagine my surprise, then, when I came home from the spectacular display to discover that, according to social media, I wasn’t supposed to have celebrated America this year at all. Or at least not without a giant side of vocalized shame.

Imagine my even greater surprise when I learned that Hamilton, a show written by Lin-Manuel Miranda, darling of the liberal artistic community, and whose producers famously refused to cast white actors in its lead roles was now facing criticism for being tone deaf and insensitive because it featured historical figures who had owned slaves. Never mind that a recurring theme with one of the characters was his mission to free the slaves.

Lest there be any confusion, slavery was wrong, and we are still dealing with the repercussions of white America’s horrible treatment of black people 150 years after the slaves were liberated. For more on my thoughts about race, please feel free to read my previous post.

But we can’t just “cancel” every historical figure that did things that were wrong. For one thing, canceling does not accomplish anything. It does not change the past, nor does it promote critical conversations in the present. For another, if you cancel someone altogether, that gets rid of the good they did, as well as the bad.

So, we can cancel Washington because he owned slaves, but then we literally have no country at all, and we drink a lot more tea. (And we still have slaves.) We can cancel Lincoln because he was more concerned with preserving the Union than with ending slavery – but, then slaves still aren’t free. We can cancel Teddy Roosevelt for his racist ideology against Native Americans (and a lot of other non-whites, honestly), but then we have none of our modern environmental protections. We can cancel FDR because of the horrible Japanese internments during WWII, but then we do not have the New Deal and the social programs which became the backbone of the Democratic party. We can cancel LBJ for starting the “War on Drugs” which has unfairly targeted black people, but then we do not have a Civil Rights Act ending segregation and racial discrimination…and I could go on.

We cannot cancel everyone who had inconsistencies with our modern sensibilities because we’ll never be able to stop. Soon, we’ll have nothing left of our history or our nation. A nation which, despite its sins both past and present, has actually done a whole lot of good for a whole lot of people, at home and abroad.

Society is supposed to evolve and grow and become better. Every generation since the beginning of time has thought itself more progressive and enlightened than the one before it, and generations from now will probably look back at us and criticize our attitudes and behaviors, as well. But let’s hope that when they do, they will also see the good that we’ve tried to accomplish and they will have a rational conversation about our positive and negative decisions, rather than a conversation that discards us altogether if we do not achieve moral perfection by their modern standards.

So, take down the Confederate statues – they were also traitors to the country and do not deserve to be honored. But rather than destroying them, let’s put them in a museum so that we can still remember our history, learn from it, and become better. And for everyone else, let’s talk about their contributions both good AND bad instead of just pretending they never existed.

I have more to say, but I’ll save the second half of my history lesson for another post. For now, I’ll just pick back up with where I started this post – with a description of my life in DC, and the part that I think everyone really cares about: my dating life.

Y’all, dating here is not awesome. Everyone said that would be the case, but for a while, I thought they might have been overstating it. All of my dates have had super fascinating jobs and I’ve enjoyed learning about them. But, most of their personalities…have not been as fascinating. And, as I’ve complained before, Nashville is just a prettier town than DC. So far, I know about 2 good looking men in this whole city, and I’ve already dated both of them. But, as has always been the case in my life, hope springs eternal, and maybe now that things are starting to normalize, my fortunes will turn around.

And just so I don’t completely abandon my original purpose for this blog, here is a photo of an outfit that I had posted on Instagram. For the record, I did not, in fact, meet my soul mate that night.

Thanks for reading everyone – much love to you all. And to America; she still deserves it.

<3,
SB

Two-fer Tuesday: Decade Parties

Y’all I’ve been busy, lately! I know I say that alot, but this time it’s been with fun things. Thank you, Nashville!

Two back-to-back weekends, I had decade-themed parties to attend, and if you know anything about me, you know I love dressing up for a theme!

The orderly side of my brain really wants to show these chronologically, but instead, I’m going to buck that instinct and save the better outfit/decade for last. So, first up – the 90s!

Even though I was in middle/high school during the 90s, I really had to do research to know how to dress for this party. As I googled, I realized why I remembered so little about the decade of my youth – fashion was AWFUL. Literally nothing about the 90s – from hair, to makeup, to shoes, to clothing – was flattering. Or even pretty. It’s one thing to look back and laugh at what you used to wear. It’s another to look back and want to immediately re-block everything from your memory.

I went the grunge path for my look. Some others at the party took the Blossom route, and that was cute, but would have required way more investment then I was willing to give.  With butterfly(esque) clips in my hair, dark lipstick, a plaid skirt, and the requisite shirt tied around my waist, I looked almost terrible enough to have stepped straight out of the 1990s. All I was missing were true combat boots. Oh, and a scowl.

1 - 90s plaidNow that’s out of the way, let’s focus on the 80s! This party was much more fun to dress for, as I could use a lot of my real life clothes, and I’m always a fan of bright colors. Also, can we bring back the 80s eye shadow? I literally had turquoise, purple, and pink (I used blush, so it was bright enough) on my eyelids, and it was the most fun ever!

Here is the headshot, complete with teased hair, popped collar, and the appropriate sideways glance:

80s headshotBesides the aforementioned tri-color eye shadow, my makeup for this look included bright pink blush in a streak on my cheek, and hot pink lipstick to match. None of this current tasteful balancing of subtlety and bold statements for the 80s – bright everything!

My favorite parts of this look are the details – all denim, in differing washes, a slap bracelet (an ode to the many taken from me by my kindergarten teachers), and the geometric earrings. Plus, Keds, tight-rolled jeans (hard to do on skinny jeans, btw), and the side pony. So, basically I love everything and would totally dress like this again if I could get away with it. I mean, these were all my regular clothes, anyway – I just don’t usually combine them this way.

1 - 80s neon with makeupOh, and can we talk about that jazzercise leg pop? Even the posing was fun!

So, now that I’ve made it very clear which decade I prefer, let’s talk about your favorite. Are you a grunge chick or a neon babe? What were your favorite childhood trends? How do you feel about bringing back the bright eye shadows…?

Let’s be nostalgic together!

Girls in white dresses with blue satin sashes

After a weekend of perfect summer weather (sorry, Colorado friends!), there is some rain forecasted this week.  While I’m not super excited about that, I’d much rather the rain come when I have to go to work than when I want to be at the pool/lake/not work.

So, I’m choosing to focus on the positives, and what better way to do that than with this cheery yellow?  Honestly, is there any happier color than a bright, sunny yellow?  Wearing it reminds me of my Clinique Happy days in middle school.  I used to say I could not NOT be happy while wearing that perfume.  And then one day I woke up and my body chemistry had changed, and I’ve not liked it since.  I’m still a little sad about it.

1 - yellow blouse, green shoesIn the spirit of chasing away the Monday morning/rainy day/whatever-the-reason blues, I thought it would be fun to do as Julie Andrews taught us (you know, raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens) and list a few things that always make us happy – no matter the circumstances.  I’ve found that thinking about happy things genuinely does improve my mood, so why not spend a few moments right now, doing just that?  I’ll start:

  • My “special occasion” perfume, Dolce & Gabbana Pour Femme Intense – even if it’s not a special occasion
  • Fancy cupcakes
  • A margarita after a day in the sun
  • Clean sheets (even better if I didn’t have to put them on)
  • A full Hulu queue of my favorite shows
  • Psalm 37

Those are a few of mine – what about you?  I can’t wait to hear your favorite things!

 

How Pinteresting

Y’all, I think I’m secretly a 15 year old.  I’ve spent a considerable amount of time over the past 8 months that I’ve lived in Georgia watching hair and make-up tutorials on Youtube.  If Pinterest and Youtube had existed when I was actually in high school, I would have been considerably more popular.  Or at least, more put together.
1 - pink blazer, green KedsFor my casual Friday look, I took a couple different cues from Pinterest and tied a ribbon around my giant sock bun.  (Actually, the pin wanted me to use a scarf, which I like – but I didn’t have one that matched). My secret for the sock bun is a) to not use a sock.  The mesh things work better for me.  But b) and more significantly, my hair needs to be a little damp.  If it’s completely dry, it’ll go in every direction except the one I want.  A little dampness allows me to manipulate it long enough to get it tucked into the mesh thing (does anyone know what those are actually called?) and roll it down into the bun.

I love my hot pink blazer, but I really wanted to be comfortable, so I paired it with jeans and my ol’ faithful fake Keds, with a multi-colored necklace to tie it altogether.  Pink and green is one of my favorite color combinations, but I did have some pretty sweet yellow platform sneakers in 6th grade that would have worked equally well.

Vintage Remix

I’m failing at this whole blogging my shoes thing, guys.  You’ve seen these before, too.  But, at least they’re cute enough to bear repeating.

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So, you know how I feel about headbands.  I think they’re the greatest.  Well, really, I like them just fine, but I think men think they’re the greatest, and although I still don’t understand why, I’m going with it.

I also am a pretty big fan of rompers.  Yes, they’re a little inconvenient sometimes and are the number one reason women’s bathroom lines are always longer, but they’re cute and easy and a fun vintage look.

In my case, this romper really is vintage.  My sister lives with a lady in her 50s who was giving away some clothes, and somehow, I became the beneficiary.  I’m not complaining.
Jumpsuit and headbandReally, I think this outfit should be altered a little – I don’t typically wear my clothes so blousy.  But, the piece was free, and paying for alterations would take away some of the joy at having new free clothing.  So, blousy it will remain, for now, anyway.

  • Shoes: H&M
  • Headband: Forever 21 (?)
  • Bracelet – gift, originally from 31 Bits, another good cause organization that you should feel free to check out!

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