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Cool Cool

I made a comment on facebook recently that I think I might be losing people’s attention because I haven’t had any good dating stories in a while. So…it’s time to give the people what they want!

One of the reasons there has been a shortage of stories about my love life is that I deleted all of my dating apps. I decided to just give real life a chance again for a while. And real life has treated me pretty well – I can generally weed out the weirdos before I go on a date with them (that doesn’t prohibit me from doing embarrassing things like asking out my chiropractor, but it does limit the awkward interactions), and so my dating experiences are much more pleasant. Perhaps, though, pleasant isn’t as great for my blog readership.

Fortunately for all of you, the other night, a ghost from Tinder past popped up.

For you to understand this story, I need to tell you about a guy I met online back in May. He lived in Knoxville but came to Nashville a lot. We exchanged numbers, and he started texting me. His texts were not exactly stimulating, though… Almost every day, he’d ask me how my day was, I’d answer, and then he’d ask when I got off work. Everyday I’d tell him I got off at 5. Guys, 5:00. Like, that’s not a weird time to remember. But, every day we’d have the same conversation, and I’d tell him the same time. His response was always, “cool, cool.” End of conversation.

Naturally, he became the “cool, cool” guy to my friends. After a week or so of this dead end conversation, I just ghosted. People may disagree with this technique, but when we’ve never met and I’ve shared no more conversation with you then when I get off work and “cool, cool”, I think ghosting is completely appropriate.

Fast forward to last weekend, I went out with some friends for my birthday. A man I’d never seen before came up and started talking to me, and as the conversation progressed, he insisted, repeatedly, that he knew me. I knew I’d never met this guy, and I don’t usually have “one of those faces”, but he insisted. After about 5 minutes, my friends were ready to leave, and I was over the conversation, so I said my goodbyes and the guy asked for my number.

Side note: I almost always give my real number, unless the guy is REALLY creepy. It’s hard to reject someone out right like that, and I don’t like lying by giving a fake number. I figure the worst that can happen is I get a few annoying texts after. Again, you may have a different philosophy on this point than me. That’s fine.

Anyway, the guy texted me while I was standing there so I’d have his number, but I didn’t open the text then. My friends and I went on our way, and it wasn’t until a few hours later that I looked at my phone and saw the unopened text. I opened it, and much to my surprise, there was a text history from that number. And, of course, as you’ve likely guessed by now – it belonged to the “cool cool” guy.

I guess my profile pictures are super memorable, or maybe he just has a photographic memory, because I for sure did not recognize someone whose pictures I’d seen 9 months ago. But, kudos to Cool Cool for being right; technically, we had “met”.

Also, as you might have guessed, I did not ever respond to him. Sorry, buddy. Meeting you in real life had only confirmed what my intuition has previously told me.

So, the morals of the story here are 2-fold. 1) Always listen to your intuition. It will not lead you astray. And 2) never delete your text history.

I was going to show you the outfit I wore that night – it was a very cute romper/choker combo, if I do say so myself. Unfortunately, none of those pictures turned out well. So, instead, here is what I wore on my actual birthday. I told you’d I’d probably wear this tulle skirt – and, I did! (Still not my best representation of a cute outfit. I promise it looked good, though. And I was a big fan of this color combo!)

Happy Birthday to Me!

Y’all, it’s my birthday!

In case you haven’t noticed, I’m not one of those subtle people that hopes everyone forgets about my big day. I like my birthday, and I don’t mind people celebrating with me (even if I’m not excited about the number anymore…)

On my birthday, I always like to wear something really pretty, that makes me feel very girly and fun. Last year, I wore my purple satin skirt with gold shoes (and was very overdressed for an all-day work orientation, but whatever). This year, I’m writing this before my birthday (true confession, I usually write these posts in advance – it’s the only way I can get them done!) I really want to wear one of my sequin skirts, but that’s generally frowned upon in academia. So, I’ll probably wear this pretty skirt again, because I love it, and what’s more feminine than a long tutu (let’s be realistic, that’s essentially what this is).

DSC_0035I’ve talked before about how much I love mixing high and low style – the chambray and the tulle are a perfect juxtaposition to each other. (Side note, does anyone remember that store in the mall? It took me FOREVER to learn how to say that word as a middle schooler. But that didn’t stop me from shopping there!)1 - tulle skirt, chambrayThe lavender-gray of the skirt isn’t something I have a lot of in my closet, but I think it’s a pretty color, and purples are easy to blend, as you can see with my shoes here.

How do you all celebrate your birthday? It may not be with fashion, and that’s okay! But, if you do have something particular you like to wear on your special day, I’d love to hear about it!

NYE and Chill(y)

So, new plan: next time I’m debating warmth vs. cuteness, I will choose warmth. 100 percent of the time, every time.

I ended up being pretty pleased with my outfit, although I bitterly missed my sequins. But, if it had not been for my friend’s wisdom in bringing hand warmers, which I put inside my boots, I would have been MISERABLE, and probably writing this short a few toes.  Seriously.

Fortunately, most of the other people there had also learned this lesson.  While we did see the occasional 21 year old girl in a short skirt with no tights, for the most part, everyone was very practical in their attire, and no one would have cared had I been bundled up like a snowman.

So, here’s what I chose:

1 - NYE leather and blanket scarf

Again, not as cute in the photo as in real life, in part because you can’t see the details on my jacket.  But, it’s a pretty lavender leather with an asymmetrical ruffle, and underneath I wore a short-sleeve gray sweatshirt.  All of it coordinated well with my new blanket scarf (okay, I learned that a true blanket scarf is a square, so this is actually just a giant, thick, fake-wool rectangle scarf), and my small-floral patterned jeans. Underneath, I wore knee-high socks, with my tall boots.  Oh, and gloves not pictured.  Yet, still I froze.

All in all, it was a fun evening – I always like concerts and being in downtown Nashville.  But, I think for the sake of my appendages and sequins, I’ll go to an indoor party next year.

I hope all of you had a lovely NYE, full of sequins or at least warm enough weather to keep all of your toes. Show me what you ended up wearing – I’ll take notes for next year!

Nashville Fashion

Even before I moved here, my best friend and I referred to Nashville as the perfect city.  Based on our experiences, it totally was, but I did have the slightest fear that when I actually lived here and wasn’t just on vacation, it might not live up to that moniker.  Fortunately, it has in every respect.

Between all the restaurants I’ve tried, TV shows I’ve been an extra in, and concerts I’ve attended, I feel like I’m really taking the Nashville bull by the horns. But there is one area in which I feel inadequate – fashion.

Maybe that’s ironic for someone who has a fashion blog, but Nashville is by far the trendiest/most fashionable place I have ever lived – and the style here is very specific. Whether it’s the floppy hat/wedge booties/black top look of the “it” girls, or the more bohemian/grunge/beanie (hats are really big in Nashville) stylings of the hipsters, I just haven’t quite mastered the Nashville look yet.  Because of that, I am a little self-conscious of my wardrobe, and all of my clothes now feel old fashioned. I mean, after all, I did spend the last two years building up the more preppy, traditional look of North Georgia and worked at a law school for years before that.

However, I’ve been inspired by something a musician told me when we were discussing the unbelievable amount of musical talent in this town. He said that instead of being intimidated by how good everyone else is, he’s motivated by those around him to become better. The “competition” pushes him to be the best version of himself. I like that – right now I’m stretching my fashion muscles, but in the end, I’ll be stronger for it.

In the meantime, here is an outfit I wore in Georgia that I probably wouldn’t be embarrassed to wear here, and that’s good enough for now.

1 - purple leather, floral jeans

 

Purple, Lilac, Lavender

For a girl who loves color as much as I do, today’s “Purple, Lilac, Lavender” prompt seemed pretty easy.  But, I decided to try to get as many shades of that lovely hue in as possible.  Thanks to my cute floral infinity scarf, I think I covered all three, and my shoes (which sadly, are on their last leg, RIP) made sure no one forgot which shade of the rainbow I was highlighting.

I have a friend who wears something purple every single day.  I like that about her.  While I don’t think I have that much dedication to any one shade, I do like the idea of having a signature color (a la Elle Woods) that you can always go to when you want to feel good about yourself or celebrate something special.  For me, that color will always be pink.  I don’t really have a lot of it in my closet, but it’s a cheerful color that always makes me feel pretty and feminine.
1 - purple, lilac, lavenderDo you have a “signature color” (or, one that you just really enjoy wearing)?  If so, what is it, when do you wear it, and what do you like about it?  Let’s bring some color to this black and white Monday!

Just a little pick-me-up

Sunday is currently my favorite day of the week. I’ve developed a nice little routine – wake up whenever, watch my beloved Virginia Beach church on webcast, do a few chores, and get ready to go to Starbucks, where I’ll work on this blog or whatever other technological chores I might have.

I spend a lot of time on Sundays getting ready.  The people at Starbucks probably think I’m crazy, as I come in almost every week, dressed in a cute outfit, makeup flawless, and hair done (although Sunday is often my Pinterest experiment day, so the hair might look a little off) – only to sit by myself staring at a computer for a few hours.  I don’t quite match the other clientele, who are either here with friends, or dressed in comfy clothes, as is more befitting a long study or work sesh.

But, I don’t care.  I do it because getting ready is something I really enjoy.  It makes me feel good about myself and it’s a fun activity – in no way a chore.  And, Sundays have become very special to me.

When I moved to Georgia in 2014, I knew it would take some time to get established and make friends.  I didn’t realize, however, that a year and a half later, I’d still be working on it.  Don’t get me wrong – I have made a few friends, and generally, I have at least one thing to do most weekends.  But my social calendar has significantly slowed since VB, and there are days when the only human being I interact with is a cashier at 5 Guys or Ulta (honestly, those people should know me by name now).  And for this extrovert, that’s really hard.

So, I come to Starbucks.  Here, I’m not alone, even though no one is sitting across the table from me.  With my music on, I am lost in my own world of daydreaming and writing, all while people and activity bustle around me.

I spent most of 2014 depressed, quite honestly.  It was so contrary to my personality to be down, which only depressed me further – who was this person I was becoming?  So, in 2015, I decided to do something about it.  I don’t want to take all the credit, as I know God gave me grace and inspiration to get out of my funk.  But, one of the things I did was start making the most of Sundays.  Of course, I would prefer to go to the beach with all my friends, like I used to spend every Sunday, but that’s not my life right now.  So, instead of bemoaning my fate, I decided to do what I enjoy, anyway – play with hair/makeup/clothes, write, and get myself a treat.  The first couple of weeks, I still felt sorry for myself, but now that I’ve made it a routine, I genuinely look forward to my Sundays of beauty, peace, and sugar.

I say this to encourage anyone who’s not 100% happy with your situation in life.  I’m confident that my season of solitary confinement will eventually pass, but in the meantime, I’ve found a way to enjoy the free time I have.  And I’m sure that your season of – whatever – will also pass.  Life ebbs and flows like that.  But what can you do for yourself in the meantime to not only improve your mood and attitude, but also just your quality of life?

Maybe you can follow my lead and dress cute to go to Starbucks.  If that’s your plan, here are a few ideas from my past Sundays:

1 - mint green everythingI’m pretty sure this cut-out dress is actually a beach cover-up, but whatever. I really like it as a dress.
1 - polka dots and lavenderThis outfit wasn’t super exciting to me, except that it was a new combo, and I love doing that.  However, I received two compliments that day (from women – which always is higher praise, I think).  That tends to be the case – the less effort I feel like I’ve put in, the better the look seems to be received.
1 - pineapples and tribal shortsI got to sit outside for a few hours on this particular Sunday – I love when that works out.  It seems the best of both worlds: sunshine and fresh air, mixed with productivity.  My legs did not get tan, but at least I didn’t look ridiculous sitting in the freezing Starbucks (I’m convinced they keep that thermostat at about 52 degrees) in my short shorts and pineapple tee.

Wednesday’s Woman: Esther

I’ve been waiting to talk about Esther.  Along with Ruth, Esther is the super star woman of the Bible, and I didn’t want to talk about her just because it was expected.  I wanted to have something worth saying.  Thanks to Tim Tebow, I finally do.

This past Sunday, I heard Tebow speak at a church in Knoxville, and he touched on a lot of things.  But, one that especially stood out to me was how he has used the platform given him. If you know about Tebow at all, you know there are a million examples of him being a Good Samaritan.  But, you probably also know that he wore Bible verses written in his eye black during college.  When Florida won the national championship in 2008, Tebow put John 3:16 in his eye black.  As a result, 94 million people googled the verse that is the crux of Christianity.

Exactly 3 years later, Tebow beat the Steelers in overtime during the NFL playoffs.  In an unbelievable turn of events, he threw for 316 yards, the time of possession was 31 minutes, 6 seconds, the viewing percentage was 31.6 percent – just a few of the 3:16 references in that game.  Totally unbeknownst to Tim, his actions again influenced a surge in Bible searches, this time with 90 million people looking up the beloved verse.

The number thing is cool, but obviously, the point was that a simple act of obedience to God can influence so many more people than we even realize.  You never know what impact you can have, so make the most of every opportunity.

Enter Esther.

Esther is more of a traditional Cinderella story than Leah’s.  Enslaved like Cinderella, Esther was soon promoted to queen through both her kindness (to the eunuch in charge of preparing her to meet the king) and beauty.  But, unlike Cinderella, Esther’s story did not end there.  Rather, she was in a unique position of being able to save her entire people – the Jews – from annihilation.  But, since no one knew she was Jewish, and since the king issued the order in the first place, and since even the queen did not have free access to the throne, Esther took a huge risk in approaching the king.

Fortunately, Esther’s risk paid off and her entire race was saved.  But, had she not stepped out in faith – had she not been obedient – everyone she cared about would have been killed.

Obviously, Tebow’s Scripture eye black is a bit less dramatic than Esther’s risking death, but he’s not in a position to save an entire race of people.  He is, however, in a position to influence millions, and he uses his platform to do just that.

Probably if you’re reading my blog, you don’t have the platform of either Tim Tebow or Esther.  I certainly don’t.  But another thing Tim said is that you never know who is watching you.  No matter what your station in life – student, employee, stay-at-home mom, pastor, choir member, friend – you have people in your sphere of influence.  There is an opportunity to impact those around you, and something as simple as a smile and warm greeting might be all that’s necessary.  Sometimes, you see immediate impact of your actions – death edicts reversed, 94 million people searching the Gospel; sometimes, you see residual results – 90 million people searching the Gospel, 3 years later.  Sometimes you never see the final outcome.  But, what we do does matter and can profoundly change a life for the better.

I don’t want this to be just a nice motivational speech for myself.  I am actively thinking about ways I can be more influential in the Kingdom of God by impacting those around me.  And, I hope you will be challenged by Esther’s and Tim’s examples as I was.  How can you make a difference in the lives of those around you and in the lives of those who are watching?  What small thing(s) is God asking you to do that may alter the course of history – for an entire people, for one person, or even for yourself.  Or, if you’ve already seen God move in this way, please share an encouraging example – I’ve noticed that the more we see God work, the more we want to be part of it!  Let’s grow together.

Esther

I’m positive Esther would have worn this look – it’s almost Kate Middleton-esque.  It’s certainly what I would wear, were I a queen.

Dressing for a Date

I mentioned last week that I’d gone on a date…and it did not go well.  I mean, he was nice and picked a good restaurant.  But, I knew before we met in real life (since we’d originally met online…of course) that it wasn’t going to be a good match.  And my suspicions were confirmed that night.

So, we soldier on, but I’m going to take this opportunity to talk about dressing for a date.  It’s always a little tricky to figure out what’s appropriate, especially for what is essentially a blind date, and even more especially if you’re going somewhere you’ve never been (i.e., everywhere I go in Georgia).  I can’t really help with a specific date outfit in a generic blog post (but feel free to email me anytime you have questions about dressing for an event, and I’ll be glad to weigh in!).  I can, however, comment on what is most important to any good date impression – confidence.

First dates are inherently awkward and nerve racking.  No matter how many I’ve been on, I still feel some sort of nerves every time.  But, confidence helps – when I feel good about myself, namely my appearance, I’m a little more at ease and can focus on the myriad other things stressing me out.

It’s really easy to pick an outfit that boosts your confidence – build it around your favorite feature!  I know we can list a billion things we each don’t like about ourselves, but I think everyone can find at least one thing they DO like about themselves (and if not, please let me know and we’ll work through that together).

For me, I like my legs.  I mean, they aren’t Carrie Underwood’s, but even as my weight has fluctuated over the years, I’ve always felt good when wearing a skirt. So, you’ll pretty much never see me wearing pants on a date.  Plus, I love looking as feminine as possible when going out for the first time (that’s not a rule – just what I personally really like.  So no condemnation if that’s not your jam.)

Maybe you really like your arms, a la Mrs. First Lady, and sleeveless tops are your go-to.  Maybe you’ve got J-Lo junk in the trunk and your favorite pair of jeans makes that really pop.  Or maybe it’s something even less obvious like your forearms – a stack of bangles highlights a pretty wrist.

Whatever it is, chances are, if you like it, other people will, too.  And there is nothing so attractive – to either sex – than confidence.  So, embrace yourself and highlight what you love!  You’ll be better off for it.

To showcase this outfit, I included two full shots – the one on the right has much better lighting and more accurate colors, but I cut off the shoes when taking it.  So, you get both.  I was pleased with this outfit – feminine and flirty, but still casual enough that I didn’t look like I was trying too hard (because, honestly, I definitely was not).  My only complaint was that I wore this infinity scarf on another first date, and I hate associations like that.  Oh well.  Can’t win ’em all.

1 - purple skirt, infinity scarfWhat do you like about yourself?  Do you dress to accent that when you’re wanting to make a good impression/feel good about yourself, or is that something you can start to work on?

Neon Lights

We interrupt this regularly scheduled programming to bring you: just a regular blog post.

I was out of town for Easter, and before that, I just had a really busy week and didn’t get to my blog as often as I would have liked.  So, at the risk of falling off the face of the earth for the 2nd week in a row, I thought I’d at least publish something today, and if I’m very lucky, even tomorrow and Friday.  This weekend, I should be able to get back on track (if I don’t run away with Tim Tebow, but I’ll save that story for now), so next Wednesday, we’ll look at another woman from the Bible.

For some reason, I’ve been on this t-shirt kick lately.  I don’t honestly know where it came from, but since I bought 5 t-shirts from H&M in a week, I guess it’s going strong.

I love this neon yellow I picked up recently.  I’m often not a fan of neon yellows and greens – I think they veer too close to snot when you have a cold.  But, I just really liked this one, so I picked it up, and then two days later, I got the cute infinity scarf I’m wearing that perfectly matched.  The purple jeans were a bit of a leap, but when I saw them in my dresser, I thought it just might work and went for it.  I also ended up completely coordinating with the bowling alley I went to later that night, so you know – that’s something.

1 - neon shirt purple jeanswpid-0327151821.jpgWhat do you think of my color combo?  Too much, or just so crazy it might work? (I did bowl the best game of my life that night and came in 2nd place – I’m pretty sure the neons are the reason.)  Also, how do you feel about bowling in general?  Or about me telling you that I once accidentally threw the ball into the next lane?

Let’s talk!

80 Days of Shoes: Purple Pumps

One of the things I was (very shallowly) most excited about when taking my new position in Georgia was that I could dress casually for work.  I was tired of pencil skirts and heels.  Or so I thought.

But, many days, I find myself wearing my old law school clothes and shoes.  I don’t know if this is a deep rut I can’t get out of, a subconscious belief that business or at least business casual should prevail in the office, or if I just really like dressing up.  Regardless, more often than not, I wear shoes like these pretty purple pumps my friend Vivian gave me:
DSC_1334and conservative straight-leg trousers like these:
1 - winter white, turquoise, purpleOf course, we all know that I can’t do anything strictly conservatively, so, I spiced up my professional look with bright colors.  Unacceptable in the court room, but okay just about anywhere else.

Purple and turquoise are one of my favorite color combos.  What are yours?

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